How to define confidence? Based on the Oxford definition, it defined as the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. Sounds alright. Actually everyone has their own definition toward confidence. As for me, I would define it as the degree of acceptance to yourself. Hence, how confident you are depends on how much you can accept yourself.
Since the time I got in my university, somehow I realized there are a bunch of guys who being "ignored" by the other gang. From time to time, I discovered that the guys who being "ignored" most of them lack of something inside...... "CONFIDENCE". They tried very hard to let others to accept them in various way, bluffing, lame jokes, and etc. This reminds me my very old-self but I thank God I didn't face much opposes for making friends.
Skip the nonsense, I am going to suggest few ways to improve your self-confidence.
1. CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
Confidence is nurture or nature? I believe that some people were born to have some natural confidence but I am not. My confidence is thing that I nurtured. Stop thinking all the disabilities that you had inside you. Just accept yourself who you are. You are you, the perfect creation of God. Hey look people, think that who your true identity? Sons and daughters of the most high KING! YOU ARE A PRINCE OR A PRINCESS. Change your mindset about defying yourself but accept who are you.
2. CHANGE YOUR LOOK?
If you are not satisfy with your looking now. How about go for a haircut? What people really care not really your looking somehow. What they want is the true of you. Just being yourself is good enough. You don't really have to go for a plastic surgery. Just a slight change such as get yourself basic hygiene, put on some perfume to avoid strange smell. Have a tidy and nice haircut so that people can see your face well. Smile all the time, smile is the cheapest but best make up in the world. Dissatisfy your body shape? Easy man! Go to have some exercises to keep fit as I am having now. Haha.
3. PICK UP SOME SKILLS
Go and pick up some real skills instead of boasting about it. We might not talented as others do but there is still some skills that can be pick up. I don't have any skill until I was in form 5 my friends willing to teach me some basic of piano. Hey man! I might not play piano well but I still can finish a song with chords. Go to pick up guitar skills recently. It was nice, I can play a whole song with only chords again. Sports~ I don't really go for sport before I came into my university. Now, I can play basketball, football and etc. Hey, these are the real deals. I mean come on, don't just sit on the bench and say no to everything. Never try, never know. Get off your bench pick up some skills. That also might help you get some girls. =P
In a nutshell, just by sitting won't get you any confidence. Move your ass out of your chair. Confidence is the acceptance of yourself. Accept your disabilities, accept your background, accept yourself. It not really hard to be confidence. Just try and you'll know it. That's all what I can help. So may God bless you to have more confidence. Happy reading guys~~~~
